What Parents Should Know About
Teens And Teasing At School
by:
Sintilia Miecevole
For most teens, going back to school means
sharing classrooms and a building with many other
students. Unfortunately some learners have to deal
with inappropriate behavior such as teasing. Teasing
is the act of harassing someone playfully or
maliciously, especially by ridicule. It is hurtful
and potentially dangerous.
Judy S. Freedman’s book "Easing the Teasing" is
very helpful for dealing with children’s teasing
issues. It specifically helps parents learn
strategies to help their children deal with teasing.
Some of the suggested strategies can also be used
successfully with teens so it’s definitely a
recommended title for parents and educators to
peruse. This article is not going to describe the
strategies so well explained by Freedman. The goal
of this article is to impress on parents the reality
of teasing in our school system and how schools in
general undertake to deal with discipline and
behavior management issues. From this understanding
it is hoped that parents will be are more able to
work collaboratively with their teen and school
personnel should a problem arise.
Due to the differing sizes of elementary and
secondary schools, it can generally be asserted that
during the elementary school years there is more of
a ‘handle’ on teasing than in secondary schools.
That is certainly not to say that secondary schools
are ignoring the problem. For example, secondary
schools may have home room teachers discuss such
topics with students; there may be the occasional
guest speaker such as a police liaison who addresses
the students on this or a similar topic and, faculty
are surely expected to reinforce standards of
appropriate behavior. Administrative personnel at
many schools use an electronic system to track
inappropriate student behavior - usually serious
incidents. Grade-level meetings are also commonly
scheduled to discuss student achievement, work
habits and if relevant to the former, behavior. The
main challenge in most secondary schools however, is
that each teacher typically instructs over a hundred
students daily so it’s understandably difficult to
monitor, document and discuss student behavior with
colleagues on a consistent basis.
Parents who notice a sudden change in their
teen’s behavior should consider contacting the
school counselor and home room teacher to
investigate whether or not the student is having
trouble at school. It is important to note that even
if a student consistently earns good grades, all may
not be going well for the young scholar; they may
have other challenges at school. Because teens might
try to hide a problem with teasing, parents need to
be extremely vigilant in their observation,
listening and conversation. Teasing is hurtful and
potentially dangerous. It is a form of bullying. Low
self-esteem, depression, eating disorders and in the
extreme, teen suicide are possible results.
Experiencing harassment in this form – whether it is
done ‘playfully’ or maliciously, is clearly a
serious problem that must be dealt with.
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